Why You Deserve to Feel Desired
Dreamgirl Diaries
I was thinking about something after recording this week's podcast, and honestly, it reminded me of so many conversations I've had over the years.
People assume that because someone reaches out to someone like me, it's always about sex. Sometimes it is. There's nothing wrong with wanting sex. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be touched, to flirt, or to have an experience that makes you feel alive again. I actually think we've become so uncomfortable talking about desire that people feel like they have to justify it.
They'll tell me, "I'm sorry if this sounds weird..." or "I've never told anyone this before..."
And I'm always thinking... why are you apologizing?
You're talking about wanting connection. You're talking about wanting to feel wanted. Those are some of the most human things I can think of.
The funny thing is, after years in the adult industry, I've noticed that the conversation usually changes once people relax. They might come in thinking they're booking a fantasy, but somewhere in the middle of the conversation we're laughing about life, talking about relationships, venting about work, or sharing something they've never felt comfortable telling another person.
That's one of the reasons I enjoyed this week's podcast conversation so much. I spoke with an Australian professional companion, and although we work with different audiences, we kept coming back to the same idea. People aren't always searching for the exact same experience, but so many of them are searching for the exact same feeling. They want to feel accepted. They want to be present. They want someone who's genuinely paying attention to them for a little while.
I don't think that's sad.
I actually think it's incredibly honest.
I also don't think we should pretend sex and intimacy are separate things all the time. Sometimes you simply want great sex. Sometimes you want someone to hold you afterward. Sometimes you just want to feel attractive again after a long week, a difficult breakup, or years of putting everyone else first. None of those reasons make you shallow. They make you human.
Maybe that's why I love this work as much as I do.
Yes, I enjoy the playful side. I enjoy the roleplays, the flirting, and helping people explore fantasies they've kept locked away for years. But I also enjoy the conversations that happen before and after all of that. Those moments remind me that underneath every fantasy is a real person who's simply hoping to feel understood, even if it's only for an hour.
So if you've been feeling guilty for wanting intimacy, wanting adventure, wanting attention, or even wanting someone to tell you that you look good today, consider this your permission to stop apologizing for it.
You deserve to feel desired.
And maybe that's something we should all remind ourselves a little more often.
Until next time...
Signed,
Your Dreamgirl®
